Friending policy? Idk.

[hardparade]

*is exhausted*

OKAY. I just changed my layout, and then went through and unlocked all of my fic and all of my fandom-related entries that didn't include too much RL stuff. I left most of my much older entries locked...just because I got lazy.

I feel a lot more organised.

And now, I hate to do this, but:

FRIENDS CUT.

BUT NOT THE USUAL KIND.

Just, a lot of people have friended me since I went on lockdown so they could read my fic, and now that my fic's public again I want to give them the chance to de-friend me if they like. XD Also, if you added me a while ago and feel we've drifted apart fandom-wise, this is your chance to de-friend me without awkwardness. You don't have to say anything. I'll de-friend you too unless I really like reading your posts or something, idk.

AT THE SAME TIME, this is also a chance for any lurkers to add me. I've never really had an official sticky post about my friending policy, mainly because I don't really have a friending policy. But I've recently become aware that I do actually have lurkers. WHICH IS FINE, srsly, but if you want to friend me, do. If you just want to get my public updates on your flist that's fine, and if you want me to add you back, let me know.

Aaand I might go through my flist and delete some people I really haven't heard from in ages or whatever, but I don't know, honestly this isn't the sort of thing I make a big deal of and I've managed up until now to avoid making any kind of friends cuts at all. But if I de-friend you and it's a horrible mistake, just say! THIS WHOLE THING MAKES ME NERVOUS, I DON'T WANT TO MAKE YOU NERVOUS TOO. ♥

Comments

[theheartless69.livejournal.com]

I'm not your mutual friend, but I wanted to say I love reading your fandom entries ^__^

[thisissirius.livejournal.com]

HI IF YOU'VE CUT ME I WILL CRY, OKAY.

[old-wp.livejournal.com]

THIS WHOLE THING MAKES ME NERVOUS, I DON'T WANT TO MAKE YOU NERVOUS TOO. ♥

Wouldn't it be so much easier if instead of "friends list" LJ had, like, "reading list"? Then people wouldn't take these things so personally, maybe, and it'd be less stressful for all involved, you know?

[londonplease.livejournal.com]

I added you awhile back and I'd like to still be friended with you.

I really like reading your fic, plus it's always nice to know that there are other Jonas Brothers fans out there that are older than 13. If you want to add me back, that's cool.

[filmatleven.livejournal.com]

NO NERVOUS =P

HAI! I'SA STAYIN. You srsly amuse me too much to leave =P

[marseverlasting.livejournal.com]

Hi I just added you cause I like your posts, but I'd love to talk to you too? This is weird and I feel like I'm in kindergarten asking someone to be my friend but if you'd like to chat or communicate or something I would like that and think that would be cool? Feel free to sit on my jacket and do some colouring books with me!

[expastic.livejournal.com]

HIIII I AM GOING TO KEEP YOU ADDED BECAUSE SKINS AND NARNIA AND JOBROS YAY! It's cool if you don't want to add me back, I just wanted to ~let you know. :D :D :D

[likecharity.livejournal.com]

LOL WHAT ARE YOU KIDDING, THAT WOULD NEVER, EVER HAPPEN. ♥

[likecharity.livejournal.com]

Right?! It'd be way less personal this way. I honestly don't mind whatever people do but it's one of those things that you can really easily offend people with. :/

[likecharity.livejournal.com]

Aww, I'm glad! :D

[likecharity.livejournal.com]

That's fine! I'm really not just going around de-friending people at random, and it makes me really happy that you still want to have me on your flist. ♥

Jonas Brothers fans who are older than 13 are RARE and we should definitely all stick together. :D I AM GOING TO ADD YOU BACK.

[likecharity.livejournal.com]

:D THIS COMMENT MAKES ME HAPPY.

[sagee-x3.livejournal.com]

Hi :D

I've recently added you, but before your locked your fics and stuff. I would like to still remain friends with you. I mean, noone else can bring me the latest Skandar Keynes pictures lol.

It's totally cool if you don't want to add me back. I'd figure I'd just let you know, k?

[likecharity.livejournal.com]

THIS IS TOTALLY FINE. I will feel weird too, to keep you company, by saying that when you added me I checked out your journal and stuff and I actually think you seem kind of awesome and sweet, so, y'know, *sits on your jacket* I already friended you back, I think, so let's just like...comment on each other's entries and stuff. I BELIEVE THAT'S THE NEXT STEP HERE.

[likecharity.livejournal.com]

:D I AM SOMEWHAT SURPRISED THAT I HAD NOT ADDED YOU BACK ALREADY. Because I feel like we are mutual friends? IDK BUT I AM RECTIFYING THIS IMMEDIATELY.

[likecharity.livejournal.com]

APPARENTLY WE ARE ALREADY MUTUAL FRIENDS. Which is fine with me, because you like Skins, Narnia and Gossip Girl, AND are one of the rare people who are in the Hollyoaks fandom. We are staying friends! :) ♥

[old-wp.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I mean, I think it’s definitely the term that makes people sensitive. Like, if someone adds you (generic you) and you don’t add them back, they think they’re somehow lacking, or that you don’t want to be their “friend,” when in reality your interests, or what you talk about, may not align so much for you as maybe for the other person. IDK. I mean, I understand people wanting a kind of mutual rapport, a conversation, but I think definitely calling it “friends list” makes for the greater likelihood of hurt feelings.

[rebeccama.livejournal.com]

Sometimes I wish it was called reading list instead of friends list. Even though I don't have a standard friending policy my user info page says "Anyone is welcome to friend me or unfriend me (or comment) as they wish." Maybe something like that would work.

And a very belated comment that I friended you. :)

[lettersandliars.livejournal.com]

I would very much like to not be cut? JEN YOU MADE ME NERVOUSSSS.

[likecharity.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I agree! That makes it seem a lot less personal. I think I might end up saying something more obvious/definite about how I feel about the whole thing just to avoid confusion, anyway.

[likecharity.livejournal.com]

OH NOOO. I FAIL. Was it the big text that did it? That may've been a mistake. Anyway I would never cut you, you're awesome. ♥ I only de-friended a few people and they were people I really hadn't spoken to for aaaages so it's fine. :)

[expastic.livejournal.com]

YES, I FEEL SO TOO! I WAS A LITTLE WORRIED, BUT NOT REALLY. ;) YAAAAY! \o/

[winter-lace.livejournal.com]

I friended you to read your fic but I'd like to stay your friend anyway... you seem hella cool. (IDK what to say in these things... it's so awkward.)

[likecharity.livejournal.com]

That's cool! :D Sorry, I know it's totally awkward, there's really no easy way to do this sort of thing. :/

[wirelesstouch.livejournal.com]

Hello! :D I'm not necessarily a lurker because I friended you, but yeah, I just like getting your updates on my flist. ^_^ Feel free not to friend me back, because all I write about is RL and definitely not fandom. XD