Friending policy? Idk.

[hardparade]

*is exhausted*

OKAY. I just changed my layout, and then went through and unlocked all of my fic and all of my fandom-related entries that didn't include too much RL stuff. I left most of my much older entries locked...just because I got lazy.

I feel a lot more organised.

And now, I hate to do this, but:

FRIENDS CUT.

BUT NOT THE USUAL KIND.

Just, a lot of people have friended me since I went on lockdown so they could read my fic, and now that my fic's public again I want to give them the chance to de-friend me if they like. XD Also, if you added me a while ago and feel we've drifted apart fandom-wise, this is your chance to de-friend me without awkwardness. You don't have to say anything. I'll de-friend you too unless I really like reading your posts or something, idk.

AT THE SAME TIME, this is also a chance for any lurkers to add me. I've never really had an official sticky post about my friending policy, mainly because I don't really have a friending policy. But I've recently become aware that I do actually have lurkers. WHICH IS FINE, srsly, but if you want to friend me, do. If you just want to get my public updates on your flist that's fine, and if you want me to add you back, let me know.

Aaand I might go through my flist and delete some people I really haven't heard from in ages or whatever, but I don't know, honestly this isn't the sort of thing I make a big deal of and I've managed up until now to avoid making any kind of friends cuts at all. But if I de-friend you and it's a horrible mistake, just say! THIS WHOLE THING MAKES ME NERVOUS, I DON'T WANT TO MAKE YOU NERVOUS TOO. ♥

Comments

[theheartless69.livejournal.com]

I'm not your mutual friend, but I wanted to say I love reading your fandom entries ^__^

[likecharity.livejournal.com]

Aww, I'm glad! :D

[thisissirius.livejournal.com]

HI IF YOU'VE CUT ME I WILL CRY, OKAY.

[likecharity.livejournal.com]

LOL WHAT ARE YOU KIDDING, THAT WOULD NEVER, EVER HAPPEN. ♥

[old-wp.livejournal.com]

THIS WHOLE THING MAKES ME NERVOUS, I DON'T WANT TO MAKE YOU NERVOUS TOO. ♥

Wouldn't it be so much easier if instead of "friends list" LJ had, like, "reading list"? Then people wouldn't take these things so personally, maybe, and it'd be less stressful for all involved, you know?

[likecharity.livejournal.com]

Right?! It'd be way less personal this way. I honestly don't mind whatever people do but it's one of those things that you can really easily offend people with. :/

[londonplease.livejournal.com]

I added you awhile back and I'd like to still be friended with you.

I really like reading your fic, plus it's always nice to know that there are other Jonas Brothers fans out there that are older than 13. If you want to add me back, that's cool.

[likecharity.livejournal.com]

That's fine! I'm really not just going around de-friending people at random, and it makes me really happy that you still want to have me on your flist. ♥

Jonas Brothers fans who are older than 13 are RARE and we should definitely all stick together. :D I AM GOING TO ADD YOU BACK.

[filmatleven.livejournal.com]

NO NERVOUS =P

HAI! I'SA STAYIN. You srsly amuse me too much to leave =P

[likecharity.livejournal.com]

:D THIS COMMENT MAKES ME HAPPY.

[marseverlasting.livejournal.com]

Hi I just added you cause I like your posts, but I'd love to talk to you too? This is weird and I feel like I'm in kindergarten asking someone to be my friend but if you'd like to chat or communicate or something I would like that and think that would be cool? Feel free to sit on my jacket and do some colouring books with me!

[likecharity.livejournal.com]

THIS IS TOTALLY FINE. I will feel weird too, to keep you company, by saying that when you added me I checked out your journal and stuff and I actually think you seem kind of awesome and sweet, so, y'know, *sits on your jacket* I already friended you back, I think, so let's just like...comment on each other's entries and stuff. I BELIEVE THAT'S THE NEXT STEP HERE.

[expastic.livejournal.com]

HIIII I AM GOING TO KEEP YOU ADDED BECAUSE SKINS AND NARNIA AND JOBROS YAY! It's cool if you don't want to add me back, I just wanted to ~let you know. :D :D :D

[likecharity.livejournal.com]

:D I AM SOMEWHAT SURPRISED THAT I HAD NOT ADDED YOU BACK ALREADY. Because I feel like we are mutual friends? IDK BUT I AM RECTIFYING THIS IMMEDIATELY.

[sagee-x3.livejournal.com]

Hi :D

I've recently added you, but before your locked your fics and stuff. I would like to still remain friends with you. I mean, noone else can bring me the latest Skandar Keynes pictures lol.

It's totally cool if you don't want to add me back. I'd figure I'd just let you know, k?

[likecharity.livejournal.com]

APPARENTLY WE ARE ALREADY MUTUAL FRIENDS. Which is fine with me, because you like Skins, Narnia and Gossip Girl, AND are one of the rare people who are in the Hollyoaks fandom. We are staying friends! :) ♥

[rebeccama.livejournal.com]

Sometimes I wish it was called reading list instead of friends list. Even though I don't have a standard friending policy my user info page says "Anyone is welcome to friend me or unfriend me (or comment) as they wish." Maybe something like that would work.

And a very belated comment that I friended you. :)

[likecharity.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I agree! That makes it seem a lot less personal. I think I might end up saying something more obvious/definite about how I feel about the whole thing just to avoid confusion, anyway.

[lettersandliars.livejournal.com]

I would very much like to not be cut? JEN YOU MADE ME NERVOUSSSS.

[likecharity.livejournal.com]

OH NOOO. I FAIL. Was it the big text that did it? That may've been a mistake. Anyway I would never cut you, you're awesome. ♥ I only de-friended a few people and they were people I really hadn't spoken to for aaaages so it's fine. :)

[winter-lace.livejournal.com]

I friended you to read your fic but I'd like to stay your friend anyway... you seem hella cool. (IDK what to say in these things... it's so awkward.)

[likecharity.livejournal.com]

That's cool! :D Sorry, I know it's totally awkward, there's really no easy way to do this sort of thing. :/

[wirelesstouch.livejournal.com]

Hello! :D I'm not necessarily a lurker because I friended you, but yeah, I just like getting your updates on my flist. ^_^ Feel free not to friend me back, because all I write about is RL and definitely not fandom. XD

[likecharity.livejournal.com]

That's cool! Thank you. :D I'm glad you like my updates.

[gossymer.livejournal.com]

Just friended due to the lock down but apart from Skins (which I don't follow) I tend to read all the fandom posts :)

People usually either flock RL/personal posts or filter them to only a select group of people - or end up creating a separate community for fanworks whether they be fics, art or picspams, LOL

Personally, I leave my LJ open, flock anything personally related (which isn't much since its a fandom!LJ) and in the past 6 months created two communities - one for layouts and graphics and the other for file sharing. I think people like the separation 'cause the layout comm just crossed 700 watchers and the filesharing comm (which is members only) has 500+.

I've noticed that only a fraction of mutual friends have friended the other two comms but a lot of people who were lurking/tracking/finding me through my posts on general comms were now on my own comms.

OH GOD, RAMBLING, WILL SHUTUP NAO D:

[likecharity.livejournal.com]

Filtering always seemed too complicated for me. I've considered making a separate fanworks journal but I really don't post ~personal~ entries often enough for that to be necessary, I think. It's really only occasionally. So I'll probably just keep things the way they are. Thank you for the advice! It's good to know how other people deal with these things, haha.

[alexi-lupin.livejournal.com]

Well, I think we both know I'm not going anywhere anytime soon, lol. I have been with you since Harry Potter, hehehe. I am part of the furniture now!

[likecharity.livejournal.com]

:D Yay! Lol, part of the furniture.

[spadix.livejournal.com]

I don't remember how we became friends (possibly Harry Potter or Narnia...) but I'd rather much like to stay, even if a)I'm crap at commenting and b)I post maybe once every 2 months now. I do read your entries ♥ And I might be slowly getting into JoBro fandom and yeah, it frightens me and I blame you. :P

[likecharity.livejournal.com]

I don't mind about either a) or b)! I'm just happy you like to have me on your flist, so yay. :D

And looool sorry about the JoBros thing, I just...yeah, I have no defence. JUST APOLOGIES.

Thank you!

[(Anonymous)]

ohoh sooo happy you unlocked your fics, was actually, dreading that I might actually have to get a LJ
just to keep reading! You are the best fic writer EVER, you can write every paring; even the once I thought would be, well, weird, are just amazing!
and well while I hope this isn't to creepy; all strangers having followed your fics for, well I think it all started with trying to find Tony/Effy fics... anyways just thank you, cause even these past days have been seriously cold turkey for me, phew :)
- Lou

Re: Thank you!

[likecharity.livejournal.com]

Thank you so, so much! It's not creepy, it's just really nice to know people like my fic that much even if they don't have an LJ of their own. So I'm glad. :)

[red-sherry.livejournal.com]

hello dear, just wanted to say that if you're willing, i'd love to be kept on your f-list. i admire and respect you as a writer, you've introduced me to pairings and fandoms i'd never imagined i'd be a part of.
i think we became friends back when there was harry potter, and you've kept me on the f-list even though i suck at commenting and i rarely update with stuff worth reading.
ilu for that ♥

[likecharity.livejournal.com]

You are being kept! :D I don't mind that you don't comment/update much!

[queenofspades89.livejournal.com]

...

~*~de-lurk~*~

HI I AM HERE FOR THE NARNIA AND THE SKANDAR AND THE PICSPAMS AND THE AWESOME.

P.S. Your fics are absolutely gorrrrrgeous. ♥

[likecharity.livejournal.com]

:D Yay!

Thank you. IT IS NICE TO MEET LURKERS.

[lurasa.livejournal.com]

I'd be happy to stay :)

Even though we don't share the Narnia fandom I really enjoy reading you Skins related entries. :))

[likecharity.livejournal.com]

I'm glad!! I think I may've deleted you by mistake 'cause I thought I hadn't heard from you for a while, I'll add you back right now. :D

Edit: I didn't de-friend you, after all! It's all good. :) THIS IS CONFUSING.

[cowcreamer.livejournal.com]

I DO NOT WISH TO LEAVE.
if it means anything :P

[likecharity.livejournal.com]

THAT MAKES ME HAPPY. :)

[alice-pike.livejournal.com]

I THINK IT'S THE BIG TEXT. IT IMMEDIATELY MAKES ME NERVOUS.

[likecharity.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry, I just wanted to get people's attention. D: YOU ARE STAYING, BB.

[laconic-muse.livejournal.com]

Hi, I picked up my courage and added you, cos I enjoy your Narnia and TH posts, and this way you know I'm lurking. ^_^ I pretty much fail at updating my own journal though, so don't worry about adding me back.

[likecharity.livejournal.com]

That's all fine! :D I'm glad you enjoy my posts.

[suere.livejournal.com]

It makes me nervous too! Thanks for being friends etc

[likecharity.livejournal.com]

D: Sorry!

[aftermornings.livejournal.com]

Well I really love your fics (I totally got into Narnia because of you) and enjoy your commentary on just about anything, so maybe you could add me?

[likecharity.livejournal.com]

It thrills me that I got you into Narnia, yay! :D Idk if there's much point in me adding you back if you're just here for the fandom posts, but I'm glad you enjoy them. :)

[seekingvega.livejournal.com]

Well, I don't say much but I do read almost all your posts :)
I'm happy as long as I can see your picspams (Anna <3, JB, Narnia cast...) and read your reviews (Skins' ones for example)... and your fics too obvioulsy. Well, I think I like your random comments too ;)

[likecharity.livejournal.com]

It's okay that you don't say much! I'm just glad you like my posts. :D