Friending policy? Idk.

[hardparade]

*is exhausted*

OKAY. I just changed my layout, and then went through and unlocked all of my fic and all of my fandom-related entries that didn't include too much RL stuff. I left most of my much older entries locked...just because I got lazy.

I feel a lot more organised.

And now, I hate to do this, but:

FRIENDS CUT.

BUT NOT THE USUAL KIND.

Just, a lot of people have friended me since I went on lockdown so they could read my fic, and now that my fic's public again I want to give them the chance to de-friend me if they like. XD Also, if you added me a while ago and feel we've drifted apart fandom-wise, this is your chance to de-friend me without awkwardness. You don't have to say anything. I'll de-friend you too unless I really like reading your posts or something, idk.

AT THE SAME TIME, this is also a chance for any lurkers to add me. I've never really had an official sticky post about my friending policy, mainly because I don't really have a friending policy. But I've recently become aware that I do actually have lurkers. WHICH IS FINE, srsly, but if you want to friend me, do. If you just want to get my public updates on your flist that's fine, and if you want me to add you back, let me know.

Aaand I might go through my flist and delete some people I really haven't heard from in ages or whatever, but I don't know, honestly this isn't the sort of thing I make a big deal of and I've managed up until now to avoid making any kind of friends cuts at all. But if I de-friend you and it's a horrible mistake, just say! THIS WHOLE THING MAKES ME NERVOUS, I DON'T WANT TO MAKE YOU NERVOUS TOO. ♥

Comments

[likecharity.livejournal.com]

Right?! It'd be way less personal this way. I honestly don't mind whatever people do but it's one of those things that you can really easily offend people with. :/

[old-wp.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I mean, I think it’s definitely the term that makes people sensitive. Like, if someone adds you (generic you) and you don’t add them back, they think they’re somehow lacking, or that you don’t want to be their “friend,” when in reality your interests, or what you talk about, may not align so much for you as maybe for the other person. IDK. I mean, I understand people wanting a kind of mutual rapport, a conversation, but I think definitely calling it “friends list” makes for the greater likelihood of hurt feelings.